Self care is not a selfish act, and it definitely doesn’t mean essential oils and therapy

Motherhood comes with reduced freedom, the additional responsibilities, the lack of sleep etc. We all know that by now.

It’s harder to connect with friends and feel like you have any time for anything outside of motherhood.

I have fallen into this motherhood trap too.

But I am here to remind you, Self-care is not a selfish act!

Holding onto mom guilt will only put you on the faster track to burn out!

I also want to remind you, self care doesn’t mean therapy, essential oils and reading a book under a blanket, as the BUZZ would want you to believe.

For you and me, true self care is:

1. giving yourself a day to spend hours doing hair and make up and picking an outfit to feel good.

2. it is leaving the house a mess to meet up with a friend for brunch and mimosas!

3. It is taking your man out for a weekend of dancing and drinks while your baby is cozy at their grandparents (or your best friend’s) house.

We all had lives before baby and I imagine they were filled with more movies and hookah than books and essential oils.

In order to be the best mother you can be, it’s important to fill your own cup first (like the whole mask on airlines thing).

When you have the mindset that time for yourself, is “neglectful” or irresponsible, you fill yourself with mom guilt. MOM guilt gets you nowhere.

Think of these little activities for you (like a workout, day shopping around, fate with a friend) as a chance to SHARE your interest with baby!

Even if you are not entirely focused on baby, just engaging them a little they will feel happy to just be there with you.

We underestimate the amount children want to be with their parents. All the better if you are doing something that bring you joy. Baby sees that.

My Sunday Funday guide has more tips for sharing your favorite moments with baby and releasing the guilt.

When you prioritize your own happiness and well-being, you are more energized to be present and engaged with your child. You are also MODELING healthy self-esteem, healthy relationships, and self-worth!

Which are all HUGE(!) for the future success and happiness of your baby. ❤

Just remember taking care of yourself is not in conflict with taking care of your baby; in fact, it’s beneficial for both of you.

Through blogs, e-books, and (coming) printable schedules, I am dedicated to help you prioritize your interests, maintain your identity and connect in your relationship, in order to prevent burnout, and truly have fun in your mama era!

Remember to take care of yourself, mama. You deserve it.